The Fine Line Between Mentoring, Advising, and Coaching: Understanding the Differences and How to Choose What You Need

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This entry is part 6 of 10 in the series Mentorship Lessons

When seeking guidance and support for personal and professional development, you may encounter the terms mentoring, advising, and coaching. While these terms are often used interchangeably and do all generally involve a relationship between a more experienced individual and a less experienced individual, they actually represent distinct approaches to helping individuals achieve their goals. In this blog post, we will explore the differences between mentoring, advising, and coaching, and how to choose the approach that best suits your needs.

Mentoring is a long-term, often mutually beneficial, relationship in which a more experienced individual (the mentor) shares their experiences, knowledge, and skills, as well as provides guidance, support, and advice to a less experienced individual (the mentee). Mentors may have expertise in a particular field or industry and can offer insights and connections that can help the mentee develop their skills and knowledge. Mentors typically provide ongoing support, guidance, and feedback to their mentee, helping them to develop both personally and professionally and the relationship is often characterised by a personal and emotional connection.

This has, of course, been the focus of this series, as mentoring is something I have been doing more of in recent times, and speaking about mor publicly. Mentoring is often what I am sought out for, and the depth of the relationship that can develop is part of the constraining factor on how many mentees I can take on at any one time.

Advising, on the other hand, is a more formal and structured approach to providing guidance and support. Advisors are typically experts in a particular field and provide advice and guidance to individuals seeking assistance in that field. Advising is thus a much more focused relationship, where the advisor provides expert recommendations or guidance in their specific area of expertise. Advisors may provide recommendations or suggestions for action, but they do not typically have a long-term relationship with the person seeking advice. The relationship is often more transactional and focused on achieving a specific goal.

I do some amount of advising, particularly around careers in tech and innovation but also around specific topics like design thinking. My background has been mostly as a generalist so I have a very broad perspective which doesn’t always suit the deep expertise one may an seek in an advisor. It does allow me to see greater connections between multiple areas of interest, which can be very valuable. I am much more likely to advise early stage entrepreneurs or businesses where that broad connective insight is particularly useful.

Coaching is a goal-oriented and actionable relationship, and involves a process in which a coach works with an individual or group to help them identify and achieve specific goals. Coaches may have expertise in a particular area, but their role is not generally to provide advice or guidance. Instead, they help individuals identify their strengths and weaknesses, set goals, and develop strategies for achieving those goals. They will often help with accountability, helping the coachee to develop a plan of action and stay on track towards their goals. Coaching is typically more of a short-term relationship that focuses on achieving specific goals or outcomes.

I haven’t talked a lot about coaching, but that is something I have to started to do more of, and undertook a formal course of study during the pandemic. I have coached leaders and entrepreneurs looking to take a different approach to making an impact on the world. I will share more about that in the course of this year.

Understanding the differences between mentoring, advising, and coaching is important for both the mentor and mentee. By understanding what each relationship entails, you can better navigate the world of personal and professional development and find the type of relationship that will best meet your needs. It is also important for the mentor or advisor to clearly define their role and communicate their expectations to the mentee or advisee.

Of course, while mentoring, advising, and coaching are distinct approaches, they do share some similarities. All three approaches involve working with an experienced individual to develop skills, gain knowledge, and achieve goals. However, as discussed above, the key differences lie in the level of structure, the specific focus of the interaction, and often the length of the relationship.

One way I tend to think about these three approaches is as follows:

  • Mentoring: Here’s what I would do, based on my experience
  • Advising: Here’s what you should do, based on my expertise
  • Coaching: What could you do, based on your understanding?

It is also important to note that these approaches are not mutually exclusive, and you may benefit from using more than one approach depending on your needs. For example, you may have a mentor who provides ongoing support and guidance, while also working with a coach to help you develop specific skills or achieve specific goals. Working with me often includes a blend of the approaches as well. I have been known to put on and take off my “coaching hat” during a mentorship call or advising session, or some other variation.

So, how do you choose the approach that is best for you? It depends on your specific needs and goals. If you are looking for ongoing support and guidance from someone with experience in your field, mentoring may be the best approach. If you are seeking specific advice or recommendations on a particular issue, advising may be more appropriate. If you want to achieve specific goals and need help developing strategies for achieving them, coaching may be the best choice.

When choosing a mentor, advisor, or coach, it is important to consider their experience and expertise, as well as their communication style and approach. You want to find someone who you feel comfortable working with and who can provide the support and guidance you need to achieve your goals.

In conclusion, mentoring, advising, and coaching are all valuable relationships that can help individuals achieve their personal and professional goals. While they may share some similarities, it is important to understand the differences between them to find the type of relationship that will best meet your needs. When choosing an approach, it is important to consider your specific needs and goals, as well as the experience and expertise of the person providing the guidance.

Whether you are seeking guidance, recommendations, or actionable steps towards your goals, there is a relationship out there that can help you achieve success. With the right approach and the right support, you can achieve your personal and professional goals and reach your full potential.

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